Honey....This MUST Be Luv
How It Feels To Be Divinely favored
*Sighs* Such A Wonderful Day!
*Sighs once again as she sits down* Well, what can I say? Mother's Day 2006 came and went. I really hadn't expected it to be anything but just another day, after all, my children are all grown and have lives of their own. With my wedding coming up in June, I didn't expect to have anyone go to any expense or have anyone even acknowlege Mother's day with more than the cousery (is that even SPELLED right?) phone call. Let me tell you about my day and what you younger mom's can expect in the future...I awoke around 3:30 pm...I hadn't been sleeping well all week and I think it just kind of caught up with me. My mate, God bless him, had simply allowed me to sleep...as he is apt to do....I awoke to the ringing of the phone, and my son, Yan's, voice. "Happy Mother's day Ma!" (he has a rather thick chinese accent...so you can imagine how adorable this sounded) He had JUST finished telling me on the phone that he wouldn't be able to come home until tomorrow, which of course, I understood. Not EVERYONE can get off for this occasion of occasions. After hanging up, I heard a faint tapping on my bedroom door, thinking it was my OLDEST son, I tell my mate to answer it...seeing as I sleep unclothed and I didn't want to blind the poor boy...Gene left the room...and came back in, smiling. "There's a suprise out there for you" I sigh...wondering what I was going to be expected to go through (thinking all the while "Oh PLEASE don't let it be company!") I dress quickly and walk out...and there's my youngest son sitting on the couch, smiling at me...as the older son is cleaning my house! "Now I thought you couldn't come home until tomorrow..." I say, narrowing my eyes for effect as I give my Baby the mother of all bear hugs. This is when I am told that I am being taken out to dinner....and what a feast it was! It was hand prepared by my youngest...We were taken to the local chinese restraunt (which btw is owned by my son's Uncle) and there I was presented with course after course of the best in Asian delicasies (once again...is that spelled right?) Steamed clams in currant sauce, fresh steamed baby squid in a soy/brown sauce, dumplings, Special Fried rice...overflowig with shrimp, just the way I love it, sauteed mushrooms, veggies...and mountains of home made Crab Rangoon! If you know me at all...you know that by this time I am in Heaven, because my favorite in all the world is chinese food. To have all of this prepared by my very own son was breath taking to say the least (all of this AFTER I had passed down the royal command that he was NOT to work today....the little brat!). I must admit...to hear my children as they sit around me...thanking me for being such a wonderful mother makes all of the nights spent up walking the floor, holding a colicky infant...of having one of them puke on my best outfit...of feeling the SNAP of your heirloom necklace as you baby grins in delight, screaming "MINE!" all worth it....I only wish now that they were babies again....*I think a moment...cocking my eyebrow comicaly * Ladies! WHAT AM I SAYING???
An Old Lady's Mother's Day
I look at some of the other "Mommy Blogs" here...and I realize that, yet again, I am ahead of my time and do not fit in...my eyes find a feast of "younger than me" Mom's blogging to one another tips and tricks telling how to stay sane in the world of new Mommyhood and I wonder where the HELL they were at when I needed them! *sighs* they were in grade school more than likely...taking THEIR turn in the cycle of life and driving THIER mother's totaly insane ....mother's without the advantage of blogging...or being able to keep in touch with other crazed mom's worldwide...Mothers like J (and her blog...The state Of Discontent...a favorite of mine for reasons I won't go into here...but way to go J!) and Mom-101 (a mom that is MY brand of crazy...which makes me REALLY like her style!) that are just now dealing with their young...and learning that they will learn from their children for everyday for the rest of their lives...that everyday is going to be a new experience for them...be it a bad one or a grand one...a new wrinkle will be bestowed in Mommy's brain from this day forward...so beware young ladies...by the time THIS trip is taken (and I speak of the trip of Motherhood) your brain will be "wrinkled out"...as will your face and other very much needed body parts. Parts that seem "so-so" or "eh.....ok" right now will one day stand as a living monument of the ravages of gravity and the sacrifice you've just made to bring forth that oh so cute screaming, demanding, foot stomping, food spitting, toy throwing bundle of joy that you coo and worry so over right now. You will find yourself muttering "Elmo" and "Barney" in your sleep...making your better half wonder just who the HELL you spend your days with while he's away. You will find yourself using terms like "I'll be right back...I have to go POTTY" at the very few adult functions you will be attending over the years...or unconciously rocking back and forth at said function simply because you have lived through endless hours doing this to your colicky infant just for one blessed half hour of sleep before starting all of it over again because the little tyrant disguised as a baby has gas or is in a mood....and now even when not around the tiny bundle of joy...you are still unconciously in "comfort mode" (oh yeah....and when you do the unconcious rocking thing? Those around you will think to themselves that you must be some unfortunate female version of the Rainman!) But I digress....When MY generation of young women became mothers...it was up to us to stand and fight for our young ones....a generation of children that, for some reason, would be born with an incredible 33% Learning Disability rate...I can well remember crying my eyes out in the office of the "Special Education" administrator in our local school district office...because he had just told me that I should give it up and bus my 4 year old over 50 miles each day to the Special School district ...where all of the OTHER retards went...because he wasn't going to be allowed to go to THIS MAN'S school....aaaaaaaaaaaaaaand what did THIS Mommy do? She got PISSED, THAT'S what she did. Suing both the district AND the state for services...standing with OTHER Mom's that had been told the same thing by this man and suing so that all of our children would have a clean, safe place to learn near home...forcing the district to meet our children's needs within the boundries of our own district...suing to make sure that this Asswipe of a neanderthal and all those like him were FIRED and making sure the district came up with qualified personel that would initiate I.E.P's (Individual Education Programs) for each and every "special needs" child. Letting each child learn it the least restrictive environment...and thus allowing the child to grow up learning with all of the other "more normal " children, thus, paving the way for the mothers and children of THIS generation to live in a more loving, friendly world......well....to an extent anyway. I now pass this gift on...the gift of a better, well rounded education for ALL of our children on to you....I can't wait to see what you do with it Ladies...prepare yourselves...for this journey of motherhood will test you....make you better...stronger....it will bestow upon you a strength that the likes Of the Terminator and Clint Eastwood will not dare stand against.....you will learn that , in this life, there is only one BIG universal truth...."If MAMA ain't happy...ain't NOBODY happy"....OH! and BTW...want a glimpse into your future? have your family go rent...or better still BUY for you the movies "Diary Of A Mad Black Woman" and "Madea's Family Reunion" I know when I was given them...I was surrounded by the gurgling laughter of all of my sons....the neice that I had raised as my own....and even my better half (I'll deal with YOU later Honey...) and heard the echos of "OMG! that's YOU!" And you know what? Being compared to the fictional character MADEA? Ain't half bad...Happy Mother's Day Ladies....Enjoy it while it's here...
The Joy of Dealing With corporate America
A Woman That Truly Understands Romance
A woman who understands me, who loves me, just the way I am. This is what I've been searching for, when I first met Carrie , I was at a stage in my life when I was so tired of all the passed stuff (relationship wise) that I've pretty much given up,I have made some mistakes in my past , and always tried to do the best I could, but it seems that when things got down to the important things of life ,their was always something that didn't quite fit, to find a woman who knew me and truly liked me "just like I am" , none of this stuff about "this could work if you would just"or the "you should know , I shouldn't have to tell you","or you just don't get it"
or some such thing , then the next step was to find out "if" this person who actually "liked you ,could possibly "love" you ,just as you are , (and of course you truly "love" them, just the way they are) in order for this to work, it has to go both ways and has to be genuine.
for me that meant the woman had to be attractive,exceptionally kind ,caring, loving, open-minded ,intelligent , strong ,witty,not married, "or taken" knew who she was (not searching for her identity ,sexual or otherwise), willing to love me just the way I am and put up with a whole lot of stuff , (I'm not rich, I always work, I'm an eccentric, I have electronics as a hobby (maybe a disease),I've never considered my self a "prize" but I work hard. This woman would have to be one tough cookie to put up with my odd personality my strange past , which could pop up at any time, (I'm a good cook, but I would want her to be able to do that too).And then there are those moral and religious convitions of mine, but through out this all , there is a few things that are even more important ... ... ... The woman would have to truly understand romance , I know this sounds strange to some people out there, but it can be ,(and I believe is) an Important part of a relationship, so she would have to understand (without me having to explain "why") that if, I for instance give her something like a $2.00 bill that that's romantic , or if I, just out of the blue touch her hair ,(or even messed it up a little),that's romantic, if I bring her home something like titaium shavings from work or a ring made out of a strange piece of metal, It's romantic, not only was I thinking of her, but it also means I truly love her..... ..
So , It was a simple problem , I just had to find "just one exceptionally ,attractive, truly unattached, unmarried, loving, caring,decent, smart ,witty,bright,woman, who was able to love me and like me and put up with me and work with me and who understands romance and who excepts me just the way I am ,(also , did I mention she has to be honest, and have unconditional love, and be a sweetheart, and be able to put up with all kind of crazyness, and have a good sense of humor (likes the three stooges) and must enjoy things like cb radio ,electronics, (homemade amplifiers), solder and all kinds of electronc stuff being strewn about (in my own space of course) AND, would be able to keep MY electronic junk apart from HER electronic junk strewn about in HER space. Of course she should ALSO be willing to share HER space with MY space on occasion.....so, where am I going to find this wonderful, incredible woman? Needless to say, I DID find her, all of these wonderful qualities rolled up into one package in Carrie, my fiancee and future bride. To be continued...